sluttyheels
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Sun, Aug 05, 2012 12:26:46
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why do men with a huge heel fetish marry women who dont wear heels fullstop, even in the bedroom...i just dont get it?? please enlighten me...
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asdf174 Premium Member
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Sun, Aug 05, 2012 15:51:54 |
Honestly, most men just aren't that lucky as there don't seem to be a lot of ladies out there that like to wear heels a lot :(. I seem to notice that it's something that tends to be more common in European countries then here in the U.S. Though according to some of the studies I've heard about and quotes I've heard (movie's/interviews Nina Hately's Guide to Foot Fetish had some good quotes.) the foot/shoe fetish is the most popular fetish so you think the odds would be more in favor but I don't know if it's something that works out that way. But then again I'm a loser without any real relationship experience....
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mifetish Premium Member
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Sun, Aug 05, 2012 17:33:02 |
my first wife didn't wear heels and didn't even like them that much and never really wore them even in the bedroom, and it was kind of a problem, cause she wouldn't even wear them for me. my gf now wears heels most of the time not just for me but on her own accord to work and just in general, and loves to feed me as we call it all the pics in my profile are not just bedroom heels but ones she wears almost daily except the zipper heels lol
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sluttyheels
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Sun, Aug 05, 2012 18:24:45 |
is that why you split with your first wife? and if you knew she didnt like to wear heels was it something you pushed to the back of your mind??
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mifetish Premium Member
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Sun, Aug 05, 2012 18:39:00 |
no actually she split from me, and it didn't have anything to do with my fetish, yeah i pushed it to the back of my mind ya know i figured she would have at least did it for me if nothing else, i own my fetish it doesn't own me, per say. i love women in heels i don't wear them myself, and not really a criteria weather or not i date a woman or not, in this case my gf now loves wearing heels and it's a definate plus for me.
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Shoeboi Premium Member
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Thu, Aug 09, 2012 18:36:54 |
I guess it all has to do with luck of the draw. Some get what they want and some don't. Besides nobody really talks about their fetishes openly anyway. If they did. There would be a lot more people marrying the people they really want to be with.
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luvshoefun Premium Member
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Mon, Aug 13, 2012 05:31:18 |
I wish it was as easy as marrying a woman with a willingness to embrace a shoe fetish. I am getting to the end of a divorce of a 28 year marriage which really had a very sad sex component. When we dated she wore lovely heels but our failing as a couple was communication and sex was no different. Even fairly normal sex acts were considered disgusting by my ex and wearing shoes or stockings made her feel cheap. Thanks to this site, I've made friends of both sexes, feel better about my fetish and discussing it so that if I am lucky enough at 57 to find a woman to connect with I can reveal my true self so that choices can be made. Until then, I have on line fun aplenty thanks to this community, I can't thank you all enough!
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fillinghershoes Premium Member
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Tue, Aug 14, 2012 04:17:00
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Sites like this taught me that I wasn't the only one out there with a shoe fetish has helped me to own it much more than ever before. I don't feel like a weirdo or freak anymore because I know I'm not alone.
Now I just look at it as a matter of preference - just like blonde or brunette, tall or petite, thick or thin, etc. Some guys like big tits, I like shoes - it's not really any different, except we are lucky enough to have women around with their sexy parts on display for us. Can you imagine how lucky the boob guys would feel if women walked around topless all the time?
I tell almost everyone openly about my fetish now, and what I've found is that if I don't think it's a big deal, then nobody else seems to either. Most girls are AMAZINGLY receptive. 90% of the girls I meet think it's kind of cool. Probably 60% want to know more and seem genuinely curious and want to know more.
Girls think its awesome when I tell them that taking my wife shoe shopping is like foreplay for me. Most seem disappointed when I tell them that I'm married and I don't cheat. Some ask if I will talk to their boyfriends for them! I tell them to do a little shoeplay under the table at dinner and start wearing their favorite heels in bed and the guys will come around.
Around 20% of the girls I meet tell me that they've dated or been with guys that were into heels to some extent.
Telling a girl "I love your shoes" is an amazing icebreaker. After all the tired lines they hear from guys the honesty is a nice approach, and they respond to it and are more than willing to talk about and show off their shoes.
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peregrin Premium Member
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Tue, Aug 14, 2012 15:06:51
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I don't know how a man with any fetish could ever hope to have a fulfilling sex like with any woman who didn't embrace the man's fetish. I seem to be one of the lucky men on this site who married a woman who threw herself into my high heel shoe and boot fetish. We have been married for many years and love shopping for shoes and boots. The internet has made this so easy for us. She loves watching other men drool over her shoes and has even had other men and women ask her if they can touch and caress them. I am a very lucky man.
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riftzone
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Mon, Sep 17, 2012 20:34:54
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Well what an interesting thread.
SH i wonder if we turned the tables and asked you the question could you marry a guy who didn't have a shoe fetish or would that not be a problem at all to you?
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sluttyheels
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Thu, Sep 20, 2012 00:01:14 |
ive gone from no known fetish to a high level of shoe interest shall we say... and i used to think i could take it or leave it but now i cant imagine an existence with any man who didnt share my passion, and it is a passion now. so it would definately be a deal breaker
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riftzone
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Thu, Sep 20, 2012 20:54:17
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Wow thats really interesting to read.
I think you are very much in the minority of women who are so active in shoe fetish sex, as is clear from the number of women on this site nowdays. Is it the shoes that you find so sexy or the effect and power they can give you over us guys that you would really miss?
Would you really not be with Mr Right if shoes and dressing up did nothing for him? Or would that not make him Mr Right for you?
There are still so many guys that won't or cant share there fetish as it could be seen as perverted. Maybe thats more in the minds of the guys than in the minds of the partners. And most guys must love the lady more than they love the love of heels, and of course for many the thrill of the secret love of the shoes is a turn on.
RZ XX
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asdf174 Premium Member
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Tue, Sep 25, 2012 02:28:26 |
I don't know. Honestly I'm starting to think that people put way to much emphasis on sex. I'm 33 didn't loose my virginity tell 26 the last time i had sex was 4 years ago only had sex 3 or four times. Honestly the fetish is cool but I would just simply settle for being with someone. Loneliness is a man's worst enemy. Believe me, the fetish is cool and all but I would kill just to have a real girlfriend and not have to use my right hand anymore. Hell it's been so long I'm starting to loose sexual interest all together and it's probably a precursor to well I don't know, It's fucked up. Point being never turn down a good thing far too many people take relationships for granted. Not to be with someone just because you're letting your fetish block you from seeing what you have is dumb and really misplaced.The Fetish is a pleasant bonus to me. If a woman wears heels it turns me on real good and I'm happy as hell, but honestly I would just settle for being in a relationship with someone I liked. But that's not going to happen. Not in the cards. But I hope men on this site can read this and learn to control the fetish. Don't let it blind you and stop you from a good thing. Seen far to many men in this community let the fetish control them. I apologize for the rant. It's a subject that I have deep feeling about.
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riftzone
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Wed, Sep 26, 2012 19:15:44
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Thats a great rant and very well put too.
Sex is only a part of any relationship, for some a small part for others a bigger part. I think your right that if you meet the right person you should not turn away from that just because they don't happen to love shoes, maybe like all the best things you can work at it and find some middle ground.
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sluttyheels
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Fri, Sep 28, 2012 22:18:55 |
you cant help who you fall for... but you can help who u stay with... can you really love someone if you dont give them the whole of you? for better or worse... does that mean better or worse financially or taking the best and the worst of the person you want to share your life with? and if you want to know your other half is totally happy doesnt that mean you have to share your deepest secrets and know that they will be safe and understood?
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asdf174 Premium Member
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Sat, Sep 29, 2012 22:55:59 |
I see what you're saying but I think it's still possible to have all that, and just not have the same fetish in that area.
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Dr Jones Premium Member
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Tue, Jun 17, 2014 14:39:36
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... Mrs Jones doesn't share my fetish for shoes at all, but she's totally happy with it. In fact, before we met she'd never heard of shoe fetishism, and the like. (We met about 8 years ago).
She'll do more or less anything once (sexually) and she's perfectly at home f*cking herself with a pair of her heels, or another woman's heels, just for my pleasure. She'll wear other women's heels for kinky sex with me. She'll even 'borrow' other womens' panites for me to use as a sex toy. And I'm allowed to call that other woman's name as I cum as part of sex with Mrs J.
She even wants to go to Amsterdam for sexy fun in the Red Light District (where she'll probably try some kind of lezzy stuff and / 3some stuff).
I don't think it get's much better than that for a kinky guy.
I was perfectly open about my 'little desires for shoes'. She learned - for want of a better expression - that my shoe fetishism and all the other stuff mentioned above posed no threat to our relationship, and all is OK!
I guess that sort of thing depends on the woman because it would be easy for that woman to see her man screwing a shoe as an affront (or worse!).
It's a touchy subject. And the grass is usually greener on the other side of that great divide where all women are brilliant looking, hot babes with monster breasts. They are all as kinky as hell and all will do enything for a guy.
Mrs J isn't a hot babe with monster breasts. But she is kinkier than most. And I put that down to a firm relationship and my total honesty about sexual needs.
Very difficult subject, though, very difficult.....
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