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Sun, Dec 13, 2009 01:49:45
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hey guys and Girls,
i want to know how I Should go about telling my wife i want her to sell all her shoes,
she knows about my fetish but she tolerates it she is not into it at all! and if she wears them it's not very long or often and it's usually confined to the bedroom,
it's like being a smoker you don't get a cigarette for one month and when you do you only get one drag from it,
it's almost better not to have one at all!
so i want to tell her just don't bother wearing them at all! i'll repress my fetish and feed it the way i have been for the past 10 yrs i don't know if she don't understand what it's like or she don't care.
sure we have posted pics but if you look at how long i have been a member that's about as often as she has worn heels.
am I Being selfish? shouid i just shut up and take what i get when and if i get it?
or tell her to get rid of them all together?.
please help
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h8hlzfetish
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Sun, Dec 13, 2009 04:06:16
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you are going to regrer it. i love heels and i can seem to get rid of the old ones. if she dont wear them for you, then you play with them. hope this helps you
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Love4heels
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Sun, Dec 13, 2009 08:42:22
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Kick out your wife and keep the shoes....
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Sun, Dec 13, 2009 15:00:45
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if i just play with them then i'll most certainly end up playing with them more than my wife! not what i want, and i'm not going to kick her out! no help there!!
i'm at the point where i want more or nothing at all seems a little taste here and there leaves me wanting more because she is not fufilling my needs!.
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asdf174
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Sun, Dec 13, 2009 21:44:49 |
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I always say that your relationship with your significant other is more important then the fetish. There should be more to a marriage then just sexual needs. But your satisfaction is important to. I don't say give up the fetish. Try to compromise If she is somewhat ok with it then maybe just learn to control it and have a pair for every once in a while and try to tone it done. Maybe she can wear a sexy pair of heels on those special occasions for you o something. Then again I don't know anything about love otherwise I would have someone lol. But I think that if you think that its getting to the point were you could/would/will put the fetish before your wife then its probably time to stop.
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Sun, Dec 13, 2009 21:52:47
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lol if i did that, then there would be nothing left can't tone down what is already almost non existent that's where i'm at cross roads! either she needs to be more attentive to my needs, as i am attentive to hers! or i need to work on getting rid of it not an easy task i know, that would include closing my account here and on you tube getting rid of all her shoes and we will have mundane boring missonary sex if that's what it takes.
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asdf174
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Sun, Dec 13, 2009 22:00:26 |
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Well if your being attentive to her needs I don't think its that fair she is not being too attentive to yours. I think that balance should be there. I mean dose she even really try to be? Or is it just not that often?
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Sun, Dec 13, 2009 22:11:28
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really don't even put forth the effort
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asdf174
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Sun, Dec 13, 2009 22:16:03 |
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Have you actually talked about it with her and stuff? Told her how you feel and all that? (Sorry I'm just trying to get a better feel for your situation.)
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Sun, Dec 13, 2009 22:19:01
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we have had the same conversation over and over and over. and it always ends up the same ole shit... " i'll make it a point to wear them more" this is nothing new it's cool man
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sluttyheels
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Sun, Dec 13, 2009 22:27:54 |
does she see the heels as rivals? do u make more of the heels than u do of her? rethink how u approach her when u want her to wear them... make her know they are only sexy to you when she is wearing them, show her what the combination does for u.. are u really sure she is satisfied with everything else u do... if it feels like a chore, it will look like one
feels like u just want to sound off, you are frustrated now... think how frustrated u will be without the heels at all...
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Sun, Dec 13, 2009 22:32:45
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no she don't see them as rivals, and i don't make more of the shoes than her my wife comes first! i don't make her do anything she don't want to do and it has become very clear she don't think about fufilling that part of my needs i have told her what heels do for me, and a while ago she came to me with " I feel the only time you want to have sex is when i'm in heels" NOT TRUE and i feel like you don't desire me"
my point of view what does it matter as long as the job gets done!
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shoebusiness
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Mon, Dec 14, 2009 15:25:32
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I did that very thing in a previous relationship (note the word previous). It's easy for me to say now as I've ended up in a fantasy come true relationship, but I'd do it if I were you. I have had an insatiable stiletto heels fetish since I was a child. When I was in my early 20's I met a woman that I was very attracted to. She and I had a steady relationship for four years, got engaged after two years and were planning our future together. When we first, met she wore stiletto heels two or three times a week. I of course made her aware of my fetish. For the first two years everything was good. She continued to wear heels frequently (out of the house, to work, during sex, etc). After the ring, she started wearing them less and less. I would bring it up, and she would try to defuse it. It was getting very frustrating to me. I loved her, but it got to the point where she was wearing heels once every three months...and that was only for an hour. She had a closet full of great shoes, and they never got used. I finally couldn't take it any more. I took every pair of shoes that I had bought for her and gave them to Goodwill. The only heels she had left were two pairs that she had bought with low heels. Getting rid of the shoes ended the frustration on my part. I no-longer drove myself crazy with the hope of her wearing a sexy pair of shoes. I bought shoes in sizes that didn't fit her so I could satisfy my shoe interests. The relationship was much better after "her" stiletto heels were out of the equation. Things were good for a year, until an UNRELATED event brought the relationship to an end. The last year was free from any stress related to the shoe fetish (at least on my end). It was something I enjoyed by myself. I just wanted you to know that it can help (sort of like removing the temptation). I'll never know how things would have worked out if the relationship had continued. Maybe the fetish would have flared up and caused me to look elsewhere for that satisfaction, but for the last year I was with her, it didn't bother me.
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sluttyheels
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Mon, Dec 14, 2009 21:14:41 |
" I feel the only time you want to have sex is when i'm in heels" and "i feel like you don't desire me"
if she is saying this then thats how she feels... doesnt matter if u think there is no reason for her to feel this way... THIS IS HOW U MAKE HER FEEL
sounds like shes telling u what the problem is...and you are not hearing her...
you are different towards her when shes in heels, u desire her more... this is what she is saying... sex is different to her when she doesnt wear the heels... its obvious to u, but not to her, why this is so
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