friendtesting123
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Mon, Jan 26, 2009 16:55:46
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Hello,
I've noticed around the website that there are some that have pictures of their friends shoes after they were bought. Whether it be a co-worker or a friend. So I'm just curious, if they don't know that you have a shoe fetish, what is the ethical way to purchase used/old shoes from them that they don't wear anymore (and to keep it hidden)? Because one of my friends (not close) has a pair of beaten up flats that she replaced with some new ones. And I wonder if there's anyway to get a hand on those.
Or is there no ethical way?
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friendtesting123
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Mon, Jan 26, 2009 17:09:39 |
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What I meant by 'ethical' was I noticed that someone on the forum tricked someone into donating shoes for a charity. And I don't want to do that.
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Mon, Jan 26, 2009 17:12:08
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Im sure you will get many a story or suggestion - I know one person who recently got removed used to con people in saying he was collecting them for charity which is morally wrong, but then anyone who thought so got accused of not understanding the fetish! hahaha. What a joke.
I belive honesty is a good way, but depends how you feel. My BF used to have his friend's shoes when she was done with them. He told her about his likes etc and complimented her no end on her styly and dress sense and she was happy for him to have them.
I know some are too shy to own up to their little liked due to being ridiculed, but if you ask her if you could compensate her financially for them, and she can put the money towards new shoes etc not many girls will look badly on that There are all sorts of way really. Im sure if you approach a girl and are honest about what tyou think, a lot of girls willbe flattered, bit not only that would also have the nebefit of you paying towards new shoes and she can give you them when they are trashed etc. Whether its ethical or moral is always a matter of opinion - it just boils down to if you can be honest, or have to lie.
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Mon, Jan 26, 2009 17:25:27
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Hiya. I am WAS bf, and seeing what she was writing I thought I'd give my opinion. What she says is true, I have a friend of mine who used to give me all her old shoes, send me pictures of them on her and ask my opinion when she was lookin at new shoes etc. This came about becasue she knew I always loved femininity and paid attention to what girls wore, so when I told her about the heels thing she was gobsmacked and had never heard of it before. I was embarassed at first, but she thought it was brill and became really fun with it. I did offer her money towards new ones and she didnt even want that as she said they would kjust go in the bin otherwise.
As for my other girlfriends and WAS, she may have mentioned before etc that a lot of my GF's never knew anything about shoe fetish etc, yet I always managed to get them bar one to embrace it, as I came at it from the angle of appreciation of femininity and just being open and having a laugh about it - and complimenting them in the sense that it wasnt just the shoes, but HER shoes that I found so sexy and she had great taste etc. I think the more serious you make it, the more freaky it sounds. Now, all my friends and family know of my likes, male and female. Sure I get ribbed about it, but no more than any of my mates who love massive boobs or something. Its just another fetish - so the more you make light heart of it, the less bad it is.
I would say if she is a friend etc, just take to complimenting her now and again, let he know that you notice what she wears etc and take it from there. At the end of the day it can only go two ways cant it. But the chance is worth the risk in my opinion if you really want someone elses shoes - and to be honest, if you know the girl that makes her shoes much more desireable than just a stranger or some you have bought off ebay etc. So I say go for it, just be soft and have fun with it. Im sure she will see its all harmless fun and she can benefit from it too.
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friendtesting123
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Mon, Jan 26, 2009 17:47:42 |
WAS and WAS' bf. Thank you for your in-depth reply.
Usually for something like that, I would consider just admitting the truth.
But this girl she's not really 'close' with me. I just know her from college and we've talked a few times and I've helped her out a few times. My problem is admitting it and having it spread to mutual friends, whom I am close with. So I prefer not to take that risk right now as I am not ready. However, thank you.
So I'm thinking of pulling of a lie. I was thinking of asking her that one of my close friends from out of town is building a shoe collection and wants to get shoes quick and fast and is willing to pay for them. I'm just her middle man. Regardless of shoe size she just wants to build a collection.
I don't know. What do you think? Because I have not even admitted my shoe fetish to my closest friends whom I trust. I prefer to keep this one a personal secret.
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Mon, Jan 26, 2009 18:05:50
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I think you should do whatever you are comfortable with. I understand you may find it hard to approach her if she isnt already a fairly good friend so I wouldnt know what to siggest to you in this instance.
What I do suggest is, if people do find out, or it gets out - don't be embarassed about it, just laugh it off happy in the knowledge that it is the 2nd most common turn on for guys anyway, its just not talked about much.
My whole office at work seems to know due to one person letting it out, so that was a little hard but again I just have fun with it now. Similarly my whole family know about it too - and at chrismtas I was sat in the living room and my brother had bought me 3 CD's. One of which was called Neon Neon. If you look at this link
http://www.play.com/Music/CD/4-/4157333/
Stainless-Style/Product.html
(I reccomend to anyone to watch the video too on this link - YUM! ;-)
you can see the cover. Under the CD was another shoe pic and more inside the inlay so when I opened it I just looked at everyone and said "I take it you bought me this for the cover!" and had a laugh about it. Everyone else laughed too as we all have our own likes and its nothing to be ashamed off. (Turns out he didnt but it me just for the cover - it was actually really good - the cover was just a bonus!!)
If you had the openly discussed stockings and suspeders fetish or bathing suit fetish you wouldnt be embarassed if it got out - cos may people have it, but more importantly also talk about it. So - im sure you will come up with the best reason for you to get your hands on them and I really hope you do. My advice to you would be not to be embarassed about it, and like many things - when its out in the open you can have so much more fun with it with many people. Even if you think you couldnt. :-)
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sluttyheels
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Tue, Jan 27, 2009 20:31:20
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tell the lady in question that you know someone who could put her used shoes to good use... or who would be grateful to receive her cast offs... not mentioning who the other party is... just a thought.
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Tue, Jan 27, 2009 21:12:18
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Good suggestion. You always have deniabiliy even if they know its you deep down
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Wed, Jan 28, 2009 04:08:01 |
You always can ask them (having a closer firendship) if they want to sell a given shoe you like.
I did a pair of my friend's platforms twice in the very same night, it was in 2005. By june 2008, I asked her if she wanted to sell them to me. She said ok, because she did not wear them all the time, and she found them very high (6"). Now, they belong to me. She sold them to me by $15.
In an even closer friendship (when the girl knows about one's fetish and cooperates with it, even lending shoes), it is even possible to get shoes for free.
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friendtesting123
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Wed, Jan 28, 2009 19:28:04 |
well guys thanks for the replies.
I did ask the girl about buying shoes for my cousin. She believed it and did search for some. However, the unfortunate thing was that she didn't have any flats/heels to sell. She only two pairs for work and school. She told me she had runners and thats what she thought I was talking about but I'm not into runners.
Oh well! =)
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Wed, Jan 28, 2009 22:37:25
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Congratulations to you. but at least you have planted the seed, so she wont be so surprised when you ask her for any heels etc. x
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