sluttyheels
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Sat, Feb 13, 2010 23:53:43
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looking for what???!!!
what does this mean exactly?? married and your wife doesnt know about your fetish? married and your wife does know about your fetish but wont join in? married but you wouldnt dare ask your wife to join in any kind of shoe play so you want someone else to do the job so not to bother her? married and your wife is too perfect to even think of doing something so dirty.... please explain...
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johnnyjake
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Sun, Feb 14, 2010 02:58:00 |
Who are you asking?
It's a pretty general title with most chat sites. It's what comes to your mind first. married, but wanting to cheat.
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riftzone
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Sun, Feb 14, 2010 07:35:05
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Have to say it could mean a lot of things to different members, all of the above could apply. Maybe it needs a subtitle added so we can tell what each is looking for. I'm married and i'm looking at the pictures does that count?
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blablabla
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Sun, Feb 14, 2010 12:44:21 |
Married but looking for an easy way to fulfill my fetish as I am too much of a chicken to discuss my fetish with my wife.... or
Married but looking for a guy who pretents to be a woman so we can both wank over internet pix... or
Married but looking for cheap sex as I do not want to pay a real hooker...
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Shoeboi
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Sun, Feb 14, 2010 21:05:03 |
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All of the above!
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asdf174
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Sun, Feb 14, 2010 22:14:41 |
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either way it means looking for something outside your marriage.
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shoe man
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Sun, Feb 14, 2010 23:50:21
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For me its yes i got someone thats a little in the feet/shoe game, but love to fuck some other lady's shoes r feet.
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sluttyheels
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Wed, Mar 10, 2010 21:19:28 |
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it amazes me how many men do not involve their wives in their fetish... surely if you are that into something you would discuss before you marry... it seems like either u dont want your wives to be into it... ie you think they are too good to be that dirty... or... u dont think its an important enough part of your life to make sure you find the right person to share ALL parts of your life with??
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MFDFF124
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Wed, Mar 10, 2010 23:03:02
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Very well put SH.. I agree, I talked to my wife shortly after we got married, not before. I must admit, it was the best move I have made. She loves to wear and model them for me and all of the members here.
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fillinghershoes
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Thu, Mar 11, 2010 16:30:08
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My wife knows and participates, but at the same time she doesn't really get into the fetish. She doesn't get creative and experiment, and it doesn't turn her on like it does me.
I think for me it's more the IDEA of a woman who shares a shoe fetish like I do - that would enjoy wearing/ using the heels and be an active participant more than a passive one.
A girl who was into the site and the lifestyle would be an inspiration to talk to - doesn't mean anything has to happen.
FWIW
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love_me
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Fri, Mar 12, 2010 00:34:14 |
I think the definition "looking for something outside your marriage" exactly hits the nail. And if you'd be honest - every user of this forum is doing this. Because looking at pictures of other women's feet when you've got a foot fetish is looking and getting fun outside your marriage, isn't it? Showing your lady's footwear to others is also looking for admiration and satisfaction from outside your marriage isn't it? So if you'd be honest you'd have to agree that every married member of this site is kind of "married but looking".
That's exactly what I mean by it. I do not intend to cheat on my wife, but I am open to having fun outside my marriage. There are things that I can do outside my marriage which my wife consents to (like watching porn, she does it herself ...), and there are things where I'd want to get her consent before engaging in them, but I'm definitely open to it.
As to sharing your foot fetish with your wife: In my case, my foot fetish was not strongly developed when we married. I always enjoyed looking at women's shoes and I had also used my ex-gf's shoes for masturbation on a few occasions (though I didn't dare to cum in them at that time, how silly I was ...). But when I fell in love with my now wife the foot and shoe thing just wasn't important, it went to back stage and stayed there for a couple of years. My fetish really blossomed much later (finding this site also had its part in it!) and I am now in the process of introducing my wife. This is something you have to deal with in your marriage, but it isn't easy and it takes time. So I have full understanding for men who haven't yet had the guts to share their fetish with their wives.
Regarads
l_m
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Neil
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Mon, Mar 15, 2010 15:23:44
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It takes many kinds. My wife has full knowledge of my love for ladies in sexy footwear - I have bought her beautiful and sexy shoes to wear for me. She has turned in years, and no longer supports my fetish. She has said she does not like "being treated like an object". Plus her physical condition has gotten worse over the years to were sexual intercourse, and it seems sexual play, have gotten painful for her. She covers the pain in alcohol.
"Married but Looking" would have to include those who have no desire to end a marriage, but also have too much desire to remain celibate for the rest of that marriage. The fetish for heels is incredible - but sometimes just simple affection is enough of an inspiration to look outside the "bonds of marriage".
Not a recommendation or an endorsement - just another perspective.
Thanks to all you fine people who make this site such a real treasure. I appreciate you all.
Neil
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sluttyheels
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Tue, Mar 16, 2010 22:04:39
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you found a woman who was willing to accomodate your fetish outside of your marriage commitment with no strings... what would that mean to you... would you go for it or would you hold back... is part of the fetish the need to dream of the perfect partner you will never let yourself have?
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Neil
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Sat, Mar 20, 2010 04:05:17
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I would have to say that if the lady arose with the same affections and wanted to play without strings, I would share whatever time I could with her and indulge the fetish. No - the allure is NOT the life I could not have. The allure is the sweet decadence of the fetish itself.
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RikkiTV90
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Fri, Jul 09, 2010 20:29:08
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Well I decided to share all my "thing" with her.. she had guessed a lot of it really by the time I really got it all out well and truly into the open.. I guess she always knew of my love for female clothing and lingerie in particular. Not sure I would class shoes in the same light though, but each to their own.
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what a shock!
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Sat, Jul 10, 2010 00:39:11
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Some people hold shoe fetish in such high regard that they wish their girlfriends or wives did it, and if not they would actually go off with someone if they found someone who would accommodate this. Or at least this is what I have been told in private emails.
This astonishes me. As your like your GF, wife or whoever for many reasons, and a shoe fetish is just one thing to your personality. So i think sometimes peoples priorities get messed up the harder their cock gets. Pardon the crudeness but I don't think many people would leave their other halves for someone who would indulge their shoe fetish totally, as you probably wouldn't like 100 other things about them.
I agree with SH - surely you want your partner to indulge your fetish so you should tell them, and before you get married! The member above was lucky in that once divulged, his lady accommodated him which is great, but if she had been repulsed then you're already gonna be off to a shaky start. So, if you never tell them then you will continue to seek your fetish elsewhere, like this site - and approach people from this site to cheat as frequently happens. When - if you actually spoke to your other halves you could avoid it all and have a happier life. So many people I have spoke to say their wives do not know and theres no way they could tell them. This makes me question what sort of a marriage people have if there is something you cant discuss. There is nothing I couldn't discuss with my other half, no matter how shocked or repulsed I thought he might be.
Thankfully I have one member, whom I first got started off to a very bad start with here due to his internet images, however we became good email friends. We talked lots and I convinced him to approach his lady about his fetish - and he came back saying it worked out great and frequently emails me saying how great things are now and thanking me. He didn't need to thank me - I didn't do anything - but he took the bull by the horns and grew a pair - and his relationship is all the better for it now.
So like SH - I have never really agreed or liked the term "Married but looking" as it says to me you are someone who many ladies wouldn't want to be with if you want to openly cheat over something so trivial, or a bit of a chicken if you cant approach your partner to induge you.
I know this is a large generalisation and definitely doesn't apply to all circumstances as they are all different, however I have never like the married but looking term in any walk of life, not just this forum so I am glad SH brought it up for discussion.
Thanks SH
W.A.S. x
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peregrin
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Sat, Jul 10, 2010 12:24:51
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I had the discussion with my wife before we got married which was over 40 yrs ago. This was the best move that I (we) ever made. It removed all the sneaking around looking at other women's shoes; secretly hiding my fetish; hoping never to get caught
My wife was not shocked but, skeptical not understanding my fetish. She would participate in it at first to satisfy my desires, but then later and I mean a few months she began to warm to my desires for high heels and boots and began to participate in it as a partner wearing shoes and boots that I thought attractive.
She has a closet full of heels and boots all of which we picked out together and she wears them for me and for anyone whom might cross our paths and has the same fetish we do. We like watching other men and sometimes women trying to sneak a peak at her shoes.
As I say honesty with your mate is not only the best option it is the only option for a lasting relationship.
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Dr Jones
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Wed, Jul 14, 2010 10:36:45 |
I wonder if guys are frightened of the consiquences of admitting / discussing the fetish with their wives. IOW, would she leave home? Stop sex altogether? Or divorce him for being a pervert?
There's a guy on here who's wife was a hot heels babe until he got a pic of another lady's heels. Then she turned off completely. The poor guy's devastated.
I worked with a guy who's had a good but 'normal' sex life with his wife. But she was totally horrified by the thought of anything even mildly naughty (eg saucy panties) never mind roll play, heels, and all that business.
Whether guys who are 'married but looking' would actually take up a casual liason with another woman for heels play, etc, is down to his concience. It may or may not be infidelity. But it may easily wreck a relationship either way if the wife found out. It's deceit after all! But there are plenty of escorts and the like who'll cater for a guy's needs if the price is right.
I'd like to think guys could grasp the nettle! Find some way to very gently introduce the issue of heels play with his wife in a way that he feels is appropriate. And gently build it up from there.
Seems a shame to hide inside the fetish. Most women are open minded these days and I suspect would take part for his sake. Gently at first and biuld it up from there.
Just my $0.02.
Dr J
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sluttyheels
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Wed, Jul 14, 2010 20:44:09 |
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a lot of men here have partners who take part in the fetish for their sake, and it isnt enough.. because they want someone who actually enjoys taking part and knows the power of the heels, could this also be a reason not to tell? nothing kills a mood more than knowing your partner only does something because they feel they have to, to keep the peace
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