djamesatl3
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Thu, Jul 09, 2009 16:33:38
| Need HELP w/ new g-friend |
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I have met a new lady and she is becoming my new girl. We get along great and she seems very opened minded. I'm 49 and she's 48 so it's not like either one of us are inexperienced. She has worked in a shoe store and has said she "LOVES" shoes. My only confession so far has been to say " I should have been a women shoe designer" to which she replyed, " Do you have a foot fetish?"
My answer was " I'm not sure". Which is mostly the truth because, I have a high heel fetish. So she was close. I want to be honest with her but I've yet to just come right out and tell her about the shoe fetish. Any help would be great and I'd love to her what the women on this site have to say. I don't want to screw this up. HELP
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djamesatl3
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Thu, Jul 09, 2009 17:36:15
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I would love to hear what the women think.
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what a shock!
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Thu, Jul 09, 2009 18:24:26
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Should have said no to the foot fetish if you don't gave one. Foot and shoe fetish are two different things. Just tell her you love women in heels etc. A lot of women know anyway and sounds like she's game on already
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leather_lover
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Thu, Jul 09, 2009 21:31:13
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Do what I did with my wife years ago-start buying her sexy high heel shoes! Now she loves them too and she nevers goes out without them (and they are worn in the bedroom too).
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Fri, Jul 10, 2009 00:12:30
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I can't say it enough.
BE HONEST.
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djamesatl3
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Fri, Jul 10, 2009 03:53:32
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I've been honest with her so far except to say "I don't know" about a foot fetish. And heck, put a high heel on her pretty feet and I'm there, well you get the point. Honesty and shoe shopping, what girl could resist.
Thanks to all
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riftzone
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Fri, Jul 10, 2009 18:27:50
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Just make her know it's her in her shoes thats so sexy to you and not just her shoes alone. Sexy shoes are great but with a lady in them.......wow!!
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Spike
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Sat, Jul 11, 2009 10:59:37
| Let her know you like her in heels, but never pressure her. |
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I’ve crossed this bridge several times and have generally been successful. The girlfriends that I’ve got to enjoy my shoe fetish with the most didn’t even wear heels at the beginning of our relationship. Some girls have issues with heels and in that case, you’re S.O.L. However many girls neutral. I test to see how open she is to idea of high heels. Of course this depends largely on her personality. For example you could ask her what single thing that a man wears does she find sexy. Then when she asks you, you can reply, of course shoes. With a little bit of humor, I say that women are beautiful and have curves, like a Ferrari, and high heels compliment the female form, whereas men are utilitarian and our shoes are rugged and meant to get the job done. Again depending on her personality, my might say that Spike Heels are the single most erotic thing a woman can wear. And I would follow-up with common evidence like just about every poster of sexy girls feature them wearing heels. Also look at the top selling novels, a large amount of them will feature high heels. This way she’ll begin to warm up to the idea that it’s normal. There’s a saying that only two types of guys notice a woman’s shoes: perverts and gay guys. You don’t want her to see you as a sexual deviant who’s obsessed with women’s shoe’s—maybe even thinking you wear them. In time, she’ll feel secure enough in the relationship that you have genuine feelings for her and that your interest in shoes is just a part of you. I always try to make my girlfriend feel special and if the relationship is healthy, she’ll want to please you, so she’ll probably start wearing a pair of heels from time to time. Caution, never demand that she wear heels. If she asks, “should I wear heels?” Say, “well I like the way you look in heels, but you should wear what you want.” Two girlfriends of mine discovered how people treated them differently when they whore heels. One, my ex, wears them till this day. And my current girlfriend wears them all the time—even to Disneyland. She’ll even leave pairs at my place to “polish” and enjoy.
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Love4heels
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Sat, Jul 11, 2009 11:28:08
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...have her to ask you question about it instead of you just telling her.
I you have her to ask, she is more open to your answers.
If you just tell her, the moment may not be right and therefore she might kick it back to you.
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